I feel like in today’s society, there’s an overwhelming attitude of, “it’s me against the world!” That’s a very empowering statement, but, the truth is that the toxicity of this message not only takes away the opportunity for you to be truly happy, but it takes the opportunity away from others that could have a very deep and meaningful impact in your life, to show you a new way of thinking... feeling.
By you not letting others in to help you in any facet of your daily dealings, you’re closing your mind to the opportunity to grow as a human being. You’re comfortable in your rut and that’s okay. You just have to realize that your rut is only comfortable to you. You’re not special enough to drag someone into your rut and expect them to be content, much less happy living there.
You deserve happiness. You deserve to have others help in that happiness and uplift you to a point of reliance on the beautiful ‘give and take’ that can come from having someone else’s light in your rut... to help you see your way out.
You won’t grow unless you learn. Learning lessons the hard way sucks, but it’s effective. One day, you’ll look back on this time and wish that you would’ve been honest with yourself and let yourself realize that “me against the world” is just a cop out and an easy way for you to avoid the honest conversations of understanding that you HAVE to have with yourself and others. YOUR PAST DOESN’T DEFINE YOU! How you react to the lessons you’ve learned does.
“If it ain’t broken, don’t fix it”, right? Wrong. We’re all broken and we can’t do it on our own. We’re not above that kind of thinking. We’re not able to mentally, physically and spiritually handle things without a little push from someone that believes in us. Believes in us on a grander scale than we feel we deserve. When you find those people in life, the first instinct is to push back... not let them in, because you “know that you aren’t good enough for them.” That’s not for you to decide. That’s up to both parties, making a mutual decision to trust one another enough to throw caution in the wind and explore the heart, rather than the ego of the mind.
That’s not to say that you shouldn’t be comfortable with being alone. Being alone is where we learn about ourselves and what we ultimately deserve in life to feel less lonely. Being alone and feeling lonely are two VERY different emotions and it’s important to understand that. Once you’re truly okay with being alone with your thoughts and you’re happy in that state, it opens your eyes to the fact that, yes... you’re good on your own, but that you want to share that with someone else to fill the void that comes with feeling lonely.
Be well. Be happy. Let others in. Be there for others. Stop thinking you’re too special to be loved. You are loved and you deserve to feel that.
